Friday, January 12, 2007

Beware the Old Friend’s contact

I just recently decided that it’s okay to not have a “best” friend or to not have many friends for that matter. I do have a few close friends that I completely adore and love hanging and chatting with but it’s just been a while since I’ve had a bff (ha, I had to) that really gets me.

I’m not pouting about this, I’m very much a loner and am totally okay with this. This is mainly me putting it out in the universe that I’m A-okay with it. That being said, an old friend contacted me just recently and for a second I was a bit hopeful. She was my best friend for around 20 years. We went through high school and college together and share many crazy memories. So when she contacted me I guess I thought “maybe we could catch up.” I responded to her first email and when she responded to mine I got a big ole slap in the face.

She wanted to invite me to her Pampered Chef party. You know, one of those parties you host and receive all kinds of discounts and free stuff depending on how many people you get to attend? Yep. I should have known. When she contacted me a couple years earlier it was to let me know she had just become a Mary Kay consultant and “did I want to buy some beauty products?”

Some people are just so dense. How can you not know that’s rude or in the least just inconsiderate? To just one day out of the blue call someone up to solicit after not being in touch for years?

Okay, ranting over with.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry your friend was hitting you up for a sale.

I'm a loner, too. Big time. I have one close friend at work which would disintegrate the minute I quit my job, and one close friend outside of work. We speak and go out about once per month.

Other than that, it's my wife, my kid, my gym and my computer.

Michelle Sanders said...

HOW RUDE! >Said in my best Michelle Tanner voice<
Yeah, I don't think you will be drowning in your tears over that one. As for close friends....well I aint got many. I mean, besides sugarbut (who lives in TX for the love of God!) you are it darlin. Things change. People change and most are not very apologetic about it. It doesn't even seem to bother them. One day (say after you get pregnant) they just stop calling. They just some coming around. And I'm Ok with that. I mean I have friends who I kept up with weekly, even daily...we went out, we got drinks, we went to dinner, even walked in my wedding and then suddenly... nothing. Not even an acknowledgement that I had a baby. Not even an appearance at my baby shower. Nothing. I mean good friends since kindergarten and then NOTHING. That hurts. Bad. Just when you need your friends the most. Just when you are more emotional than you will ever be in your life. Just when you need to talk, cry, laugh and bond... Nothing. (I think you know exactly who I'm speaking of.) It's the thoughtful, good natured people like us that are hurt by it all. I mean I know we all grow up and grow apart and all that good stuff but sometimes that lack of communication and that lack of sincerity really hits you hard. And can take you to a really pitiful, dark place and fill you with sadness. (coming from a very touchy post partum woman) I can only relate it to jealousy. I know that is so arrogant of me to say that but really, I can think of no other reason, other than they can't stand to see the happiness I have that they do not. They can't stand to see all their hopes and dreams in someone else's life. I can't think of any other reason...ya know. Now see...you are gonna make me wanna post a deep, profound post on my blog about this. DAMN IT JILL!

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